Improve Your Personality

Improve Your Personality

Contrary to what you may believe, you can improve your personality.

"We continue to shape our personality all our life. If we knew ourselves perfectly, we should die." Albert Camus

The "personality" is the typical pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.


When we say that someone has a "good personality" we mean that they are likeable, pleasant to be around, and good to socialize with.


Everyone wants to be attractive to others. Having a good personality helps - probably even more so than good looks.


While we can improve our looks to only a certain extent, we can work on improving the personality as much as we want.

Here are some ways in which we can accomplish this:

1. Be a better listener. Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill of being an exceptional listener. She would look a person in the eyes and hang on their every word. Nothing is more appealing than having someone listening to you intently and making you feel like you're the only person in the world.


2. Read More and Expand Your Interests. he more you read and interests you have, the more interesting you are to others. It also gives you the opportunity to meet people and share or exchange your views with them.


3. Be a good conversationalist. his relates to how much you read and know. Once you have much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. We can't know everything, so it's refreshing to learn about things we don't have time to read about from others. If you're shy join a group like oastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you know.


4. Have an Opinion. here's nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on. When you have a differing opinion, it makes you that much more interesting and stimulating to be around (unless you're a know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook expands everyone's perspective.


5. Meet New People. Make the effort to meet new people especially those different from you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and alternate ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.


6. Be yourself. he next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is to try and be something you're not. rying to mold yourself to fit in and be accepted usually backfires. Everyone is unique and expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting. If we try to be a carbon copy of someone else, the lack of genuineness comes across.


7. Have a positive outlook and attitude. No one wants to be around people who are negative, complain a lot, or have nothing good to say. In fact most of us run when we see them coming. Be the kind of upbeat person that lights up a room with your energy. You can do this by looking for the best in people and things.


8. Be fun and see the humorous side of life. We all like to be around someone who makes us laugh or smile. Look for the humorous or quirky side in situations. here always is one. When you are fun and lighthearted people are naturally attracted to you.


9. Be supportive of others. his is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate into your personality. Just as you welcome it when you receive it, be the support for others when they need it. Everyone wants a cheerleader, someone who encourages and believes in them, in their corner.


10. Have Integrity and treat people with respect. Be honest and true to your word and you will have the admiration and respect of others. Respect others and you will have their attention and gratitude. Nothing improves a person's personality more than integrity and respect - respect for others as well as respect for yourself.


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Responsiveness. You have to ensure that the people in your life see you as someone who is willing to help, someone who understands what needs to be done and is willing to do it. Other people need to think that you will give them what they want, when they want it, and in a manner that they can use it.

12. Assurance. You have to be able to convey trust and confidence. People need to feel that you are going to deliver. To do this, you must be very knowledgeable about the people in your life and their needs and wants. You need to be clear on what you can offer them to help them meet their goals. You need to ensure that they are confident that you will do what you say you will do.


13. Empathy. The people in your life must perceive you as an individual who understands, cares about, and pays attention to their needs. To do this, you need to be willing to walk a mile in other people’s shoes. You have to demonstrate to them that you are aware of and sensitive to their unique and individual needs.


The commonsense point here is simple. To create positive personal impact, you must do more than deliver results, look good, and act graciously.  You have to be seen by others as a person who is responsive to their needs and requests. You have to build trust with these individuals, and you need to demonstrate that you understand their needs and issues.

Conclusion:
As humans we have the power and ability to shape our personalities however we wish. When we strive to develop them to encompass all that we can be, we contribute to others and our own happiness.